Recommendations to parentson the prevention of abuse of minors

Recommendations to parentson

the prevention of abuse of minors

Recommendations to parents on the prevention of physical violence in the family

Before you apply physical punishment to a child, STOP!

Experts say that physical punishments:

1. They teach a child a lesson in violence.
2. They violate the unconditional confidence that every child needs — that they are loved.
3. They contain lies: pretending to solve pedagogical problems, parents, thus, take out their anger on the child. An adult beats a child only because he himself was beaten in childhood.
4. Physical punishment teaches a child to accept contradictory evidence on faith: "I'm hitting you for your own good." The child's brain stores this information.
5. They cause anger and a desire for revenge, this desire remains repressed, and manifests itself only much later.
6. They destroy the sensitivity to one's own suffering and compassion for others, thus limiting the child's ability to know himself and the world.
7. Take care of yourself, especially in those moments when you are under stress, irritated:

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- Do not touch the child,

- You'd better go to another room.,

- Postpone all joint business with the child (if possible),

- Avoid sudden movements, move deliberately slower,

- Breathe deeper and slower, deliberately lower the volume and tone of your voice, do not slam the door.

Recommendations to parents on the prevention of psychological violence in the family

1. Never take educational actions in a bad mood.
2. Never compare your child with other people's children, his abilities with the abilities of other children. You just need to praise him for what he can do, even if he is far from ideal. To praise his abilities (and everyone has them!), to celebrate his strengths. This will give him self-confidence and help him develop in the right direction.
3. You can't be too demanding of your child. Do not give the teenager excessive loads when he does not have time even to take a walk in the yard. Don't forget, he's still a kid.
4. Evaluate the act, not the personality: the essence of a person and his individual actions are not the same thing. "You are bad!" sounds very often instead of the correct "you did wrong!" Do not say "I am dissatisfied with you", say it better: "I'm not happy with what you did." It is impossible to define a person's personality and classify him as "bad" or "good" depending on his actions and behavior
5. It must always be remembered that a child is the same person as adults, he also deserves attention and respect. Respect your child's feelings and thoughts!
6. Keep a positive environment and mutual understanding at home and in the family. Help and support each other.
7. Love your child not for his behavior, grades, or achievements in creativity or sports, but for what he is.
8. If someone complains about the behavior of your son or daughter, do not rush to punish the children immediately, find out the motives of their actions.
9. Treat the insults and problems of the child with all care, even in your opinion the most trivial. Try to convince him to tell you frankly what upsets him in your family and in the world around him. Offer your help.
10. Do not use the method of threats and intimidation of children in solving household problems.
11. Do not stoop to mutual insults and harsh accusations against each other and children.
12. Remember that psychological violence (i.e. humiliation of self-esteem, verbal insults, rudeness towards children) can deeply hurt a child.
13. If you are upset, then the children should know about your condition. It happens that children, seeing your irritation and discontent, think that you just don't like them. Tell your children directly about your feelings, desires and needs:"I'm sorry, I'm very tired at work. I'm not doing well. It was a very difficult day. I'll have some tea now, rest a little, and then we'll talk.";

"I'm very upset right now, I'm in a bad mood. You have absolutely nothing to do with anything and are not to blame for anything. Now I'll clean myself up and come to you,"

"Sorry, I'm very tired. Please play without me. I'll rest a little and we'll play together."

Recommendations for parents on the prevention of child sexual abuse

1. Do not leave children unattended, control their walks, prohibit walking far from home and in questionable places like parks, construction sites, garages.Strictly forbid him to come into contact with a stranger, especially a man. He should only obey his parents. The child should know that under no pretext can you "go help start the car", "open the slammed door", "look for a dog in a nearby park"…
2. Explain to the child that under no pretext should you take gifts or money from a stranger, accept an invitation to go to his house, to the cinema, to a cafe, no matter how tempting or interesting these offers may sound. It is necessary to talk about this tactfully, without intimidating the child and without awakening in him a painful suspicion of other people and his own sexuality.
3. Talk with your child in the evenings, trying to find out how his day went. Ask if there was any strange person walking around the kindergarten or school. Maniacs often do laps around
4. When approaching the apartment door, the child must make sure that there is no one nearby, and always keep the key ready in advance. Forbid the child to open the door in your absence to anyone. If someone persistently persuades him to unlock the door, give the child the phone number of a reliable neighbor, a person who lives nearby and whom the child can call and ask to come to the landing if he suddenly becomes afraid.
5. The child needs to say, without dramatizing, from an early age that there are "bad people" among people. It is necessary to tell that sexual relations between adults and minors are prohibited by law. There is no need to intimidate the child, on the contrary, he should be protected from a situation where fear paralyzes children's knowledge.

Remember the three-K rule, always know:

Where did your child go;

Who went with him and

When he should be back.

If a child tells you That he is being abused, then believe me, he will not lie about the bullying he has experienced, especially if he tells you very emotionally, with details, emotions correspond to the experienced state;

do not condemn him, because another person committed violence, and your child suffered;

listen carefully, calmly and patiently to him, showing that you understand the severity of his suffering;

do not minimize his pain by saying that "nothing terrible has happened, everything will pass."

A child should know that he is loved. He must be one hundred percent sure of this, even when he is wrong about something or has acted very, very badly.